Yes.


Okay, I typed "Yes", because, sure, while I agree that it's totally possible that someone can convince themselves that someone they know or are acquainted with is a bad person; and while I agree that it's also possible that their reason for doing such a thing could be an attempt to not have to deal with the guilt or responsibility of the hurt that they might have caused the person they are pretending is bad, I would say that this is just a little too simplistic. Rarely is life as simplistic as the authors of our favorite memes and inspirational quotes would like to make it.

It seems to me that it would be careless to not consider all of the variables in instances when internet quotes attempt to deal with interpersonal relationships, especially if a meme is being directed at a specific person, say, on social media. For starters, what if the person who presumably feels guilty about the thing or things that they've done to someone else is in fact not pretending? Is it not possible that both parties in a falling out can be "bad"? Of course, this is loosely assuming that everyone agrees on what "bad" means. I mean, rarely is someone inherently a "bad" person, and if they are, it's usually a mental disorder..e.g...a defect that causes them to be amoral. At least an immoral person knows when they've acted immorally. But I digress...

Queue the "Two wrongs don't make a right!" quote. And fine---I agree that two wrongs don't make a right. All day. But what about a situation in which both parties feel wronged about something the other did? Could it not just be that there's no need for pretending on anyone's part? What if one party, despite feeling wronged, longs for reconciliation, while the other doesn't? Or wait, what if the person who did the wronging doesn't want reconciliation? And another possibility; what if one party feels that a trespass was on such a level of egregiousness that the subsequent damage it caused is irreparable?

Whether it's a friendship, a romance, or a business venture, it seems that there is some level of commitment required.

Trust.

As a lot people will likely attest, once trust is gone it's usually very hard to get back, and in the rare instances where it happens, it takes a tremendous amount of work to maintain it. Is it worth all that work? I'm thinking that this is up to the individuals involved. Some people just may not want to do all that work, and sometimes that's okay. It could be that what is coming is better than what is gone <3